Sometimes I wonder if there was one thing that really pissed people off about Jesus, what it might be? Was it his suggestion that we turn the other cheek when others are unkind, or maybe that he told us to be of service to others, (that could be inconvenient) and that we should behave responsible toward our neighbors. Was it more than annoying that he continuously suggested that we be less self centered. Maybe it was his insight into how we can project our dark side onto others. Was it that he said he was the son of God? It might have been different things for different people, but one thing is for sure, you don't hang someone on a cross and torture them if you are not angry or threatened. It is pretty clear that he was a voice for change, and that he had major influence during his time. (change is always threatening) I wonder if we would vote for him if he ran for president? Another liberal? I wonder what his thoughts would be regarding the manner with which we are treating each other in our country right now? I can imagine that he would be really pissed, but what do I really know it is just my imagination, I don't know what he would really feel. What would he actually do if he did feel disappointed and angry I can't imagine that he would be pleased watching people hurting and killing each other. Would he turn the other cheek? I have mentioned this before. "turning the other cheek", Does that mean that we don't protect ourselves, take care of ourselves, or set limits? Does it literally mean that we let others beat the crap out of us? We know Jesus was masterful at dealing with his emotions, and that he was typically not emotionally reactive. He kept his focus and was incredibly courageous. What we know of him is that he was capable of converting his emotional experiences into compassion. There is a nice little piece of wisdom to learn. I find myself being really angry these days, and the last thing I want to do is be emotionally reactive, at the same time, I want to discharge the tension. or convert the energy into some meaningful action. So what do we want to accomplish with our actions, with our anger and disappointment? Aggressive actions only generate aggressive actions. Something we are getting really good at in our country right now. I don't remember where I heard this piece of wisdom, maybe in some tai chi book, "If you want to get revenge and kill your enemy, dig two graves, one for them, and one for you. When I become angry my initial response is to retaliate and get revenge. "Most of the time", I remind myself to ask what good would it accomplish? I am not big on denying or repressing anger or any emotion, and although I am helpful to others regarding their emotions, I struggle with my own. If we don't notice when we have an emotion we can't do much with the energy. We can't convert it into anything if we don't know it exist. Our emotions can tell us what we need, if we pay attention. Of course we need to protect ourselves, we need to know how to defend ourselves, we need to know how to neutralize aggression, we also need to know how to solve problems, not inflame situations, and not create chaos.
Aggression Breeds Aggression
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