Many of us go through our day doing one thing after another. We get so busy and there are so many things to do. Why is it that there are so many things to do anyway? It is as if we are just there looking around enjoying ourselves, and the stream of life grabs us by our feet and just takes us away? Often we may not even know what happened, we are all of a sudden being carried away by the forceful current of the stream. I am not sure if this sounds familiar to you. I know I get caught up in doing one thing after another and, I need to remind myself to slow down. Like Simon and Garfunkel's, "Fifty Ninth Street Bridge Song". Slowing down in itself can have it own challenges. When we stop and observe what is going on within us, the experience may be initially unpleasant, particularly if we have been racing around to avoid so some feeling or emotion. Are we creating the stream that carries away, or does it have nothing do with us? Is it that the world is just making demands on us, and we are having difficulty asserting ourselves, setting boundaries, or saying "No". The answer to this question is different for everyone. For me it is important to stop on occasion throughout the day, and take a moment to be aware of what is going on inside of myself. It is hard for me to remind myself, often I really don't want to take the time out. I need to get stuff done and don't want to waste the time. Sometimes it is just that I forget, as I have heard said before "we need to be aware of our need to be aware" The reality is that when we are disconnected with ourselves we are wasting energy. Much like the stress that is created when we are disconnected from the people around us, and unaware of their needs. When we are disconnected from ourselves we become unaware of our own needs. We are likely expending too much energy and depleting ourselves as we complete our tasks. At the end of the day we are exhausted. This is different from concept of "effortless effort", where we are truly focused on the process of what we are doing. What if we made it a practice to "check in with ourselves", Just briefly taking a few moments to be aware of our breath, ask ourselves what we are feeling, and what we need? There are several things that might keeps us from doing this practice. One is that if we have a habit of judging ourselves for what we feel, we are likely to become avoidant. As I mentioned, the other major issue that causes us to resist doing this is because we are avoiding some feelings or emotions that may be unpleasant or even painful. And of course there is the shear impact of habit and momentum. In the long term, we are likely to generate more energy and focus as we become connected more fully with ourselves. This is not fast food, it takes practice. I am gradually improving my ability to do this. For me the positive thing is that I have finally realized how important this practice is for my sense of well-being. Sometimes I just don't want to know what I am feeling, and I would rather race around like a hamster.
Checking in with Yourself
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