Parents are frequently concerned that they have adopted a child who may not have come from the best gene pool, or have developed the belief that the child’s genes may be problematic. I am less concerned regarding a child’s physiological predisposition than about the environment that is having an impact on the child’s learning and behavior. Each of us as a unique individual learns to act on the world in some manner to get our needs met. A child sitting in a high chair in the kitchen learns that if he or she throws something on the floor that adults may pick up what they throw and the young child learns that it can have some control on his or her environment. In a similar manner a child may learn that if they tantrum they may also get what they want or control their environment. It is as if we develop a strategy with which we operate on the world to get what want or make something happen to our liking. At times children develop negative strategies and learn that they can get what they want by being aggressive or intimidating. As children grow and develop their behavior patterns become more ingrained and habitual. Much of my work with parenting and counseling children with behavior or adjustment problems addresses this issue. Parents need to teach their children that negative strategies for operating on the world will no longer be effective and work toward teaching them more positive ways of getting what they want. We want our children to be more comfortable within themselves and make a more positive adjustment to life.