Couples and Intimate Communication (Part One)
I have been thinking a lot recently about couples communication and rules for communication. I believe that mutual respect is a prime ingredient in a loving and intimate relationship. Just saying the words "mutual respect", might conjure up images of emotional closeness and intimacy, The concept, however, for some of us might be difficult to get a handle on and use due to its more abstract or intangible quality. But the question remains worth while, How can I show respect to my partner on a daily basis so that I do my part to move the relationship in a more positive direction. The second ingredient may be the willingness to be honest and allow ourselves to be em otionally vulnerable. Unfortunately many people don't give much thought to how they are communicating with their loved one and may not be motivated to make changes. If we are motivated one major obstacle is the power and momentum of old habits which are difficult to change. Even when we are attempting to be more mindful, responsive and skillful the past continues to have an impact on our behavior. Unfortunately if we do not train ourselves to be more skillful and communicate more effectively habitual communication patterns will dominate our behavior and we will experience the same miserable outcomes, day after day, year after year, and relationship after relationship. It truly takes a consistent and conscious effort to change our behavior to communicate more effectively and develop true intimacy in our life.