Some plants seem to naturally grow well. They need little care and they seem to thrive in spite of us. I had a philodendron plant that was severely neglected during a stressful time in my life. It was amazing how hardy the little plant remained with very little effort or care on my part. For most houseplants we need to make sure that they have enough water, sunlight, and nutrition for them to do well. All plants need to have their basic needs met to survive and yet there seems to be differences in genetic make-up of each plant that gives it some degree of survivability. If we put two separate plant seeds in the same soil and provide them with equal amounts of food, light, and water there may be considerable difference in the way they grow. It is for certain, however, that if living things are to do well, environmental conditions need to be optimal.
Some children seem to need very little attention and care to do well in many areas of their lives. If they are treated with some degree of respect and their basic needs are cared for they prosper and grow. Why is it that several children living in the same family environment show no symptoms and another child living in the same environment becomes symptomatic? As with each plant seed each child is physically different. We are all genetically different and respond differently to environmental conditions. Although each human being is basically the same, each of us has specifically different needs that must be met.
As parents we need to be sensitive and responsive to the varying and individual needs of our children. We may not need to have great parenting skill for one or two of our children. They will thrive in spite of us. For children who have been diagnosed with certain disabilities such as ADHD or who are susceptible to childhood anxiety or depression, we need to have better than average parenting skill if we want our child to be free of symptoms and develop his or her full potential.
What are the environmental conditions that need to be optimized for Children with ADHD ? It is likely that these children need more structure than other children. It seems that they need more understanding as well as more accountability to help them reduce stress, improve their ability to focus, complete tasks, and develop effective living skills and habits. Parents themselves need to be good social problem-solvers and communicators so there children can learn from them and develop these skills. Because these children typically have difficulty with organizational ability. Providing organized home environments and having expectations that they are to care for their things and put things away can be helpful. Too often we reduce accountability for children with ADHD when we need to be giving them more accountability. This does not mean we are being harsh or setting up unrealistic expectations. We are just giving them in a loving and caring way what they need.