This may just be another post I think I don't want to read.
The last thing I want to think about is unpleasant emotions, I just want to be happy. Please leave me alone and don't remind me about this stuff. I just want to "not worry and be happy" . If you are still reading you are likely one of those people who are motivated to feel happier and to have better life. Most of us have developed unhealthy ways of relating to our emotions. When I was a child my father told me that I should never be angry with my parents. Did I believe him? Of course I did, he was my father! No wonder I became a therapist! As you might assume, I developed some problematic ways of relating to myself and it has been a life long challenge to improve the way I relate to the feelings that come and go within me. That is right, they "come and go", They are temporary, and the only thing that stops them from being temporary is when we do not allow them to be, or when we don't allow ourselves permission to be present with them. Oh yes, and when we criticize ourselves for not getting rid of them. Children do not have problems with their emotions prior to being socialized. They are just to busy experiencing different things and being happy about life most of the time. They become symptomatic after they learn they are not supposed to feel. It is difficult to learn to embrace our emotions, it can be frightening, and it can be extremely freeing. Would it be so bad if we could experience life through the eyes and heart of a child?