What is emotional resilience and how does it relate to anxiety and personal values. Emotional resilience refers to our ability to respond and adapt to stressful situations. What makes us more emotionally resilient so that we can better handle stress and deal more effectively with anxiety. Dr.Victor Frankl who had spent many years in Nazi concentration camps during World War 11, came to believe that we can be extremely adaptive when we are able find meaning and purpose in our suffering. If we are anxious can we frame the anxiety in a way that helps understand how it can be useful to us. During Frankl's difficult and challenging experiences he kept focus on his learning and the value of his life purpose and career. Once we are able to identify what is really important to us the values that we choose drive our behavior. We either direct our behavior toward that which is related to our values or move away from that what is important to us. We are now trying to cope in a difficult time which stimulates much insecurity and anxiety for most of us. Identifying what is important to us can provide some important and needed direction. Having direction tends to stabilize us. This is much like a boat that is moving in rough water, it is generally more stable as it cuts through the water as opposed to sitting still being bounced around by the waves. As I have looked closer at my values I realize that what is important to me is, being loving, caring, connected, and honest. These are just a few of the most important values that I want to direct my behavior and my life. Oh yes, I could add, Integrity, compassion, and self-compassion. We can have many and even conflicting values. It might be worth our time to consciously give some thought to them so that we are sure that are time, energy and goals are in alignment with them. We can't stop ourselves from being anxious, however, there are techniques that we can use to reduce much of our anxiety. Just learning to be more compassionate toward ourselves can be extremely helpful as well as reducing the degree to which we are unproductively self critical. As I have mentioned so many times learning to relate to our emotions in a more positive manner will greatly improve our resilience to challenging events. Extending ourselves to others and showing kindness is invaluable in helping ourselves.
Emotional Resilience, Anxiety, and Values
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