Yesterday I put up the Christmas Tree and today, and began to decorate it. This year the tree was more about my intention to make a deeper spiritual connection than usual. I have also been putting a little more energy into slowing down and being more mindful. A much need practice! I tend to spend too much time doing, and not enough time just being, and being grateful. Being grateful has been more difficult this year. I am fortunate to live in a charming old house, and tonight I was sitting by the tree reading, and enjoying the fireplace. As I was listening to some soft music on Pandora, I heard this song which I had never heard before. The song is called "Gravity for Grace", by Heather Riddon. It may have been my nostalgic mood, or just being a little melancholy, but the song really touched me. She talks about her relationship and the sense of "lightness", that she feels as a result of the relationship she has with her loved one. Maybe she is still in the "Honeymoon Period", or just having one of those moments when she is not seeing her loved on as an.... well lets just say less than kind. She is appreciating the release of heaviness in herself, and is grateful to her beloved for helping her have this pleasurable experience. How nice it would be for us to believe that we are making life better for those we care about. How nice it would be to believe that our intimate partner feels much less weighed down in life, because of our relationship with them. Unfortunately that is not always the case, but the thought might be worthwhile contemplating. And if our partner is contributing to making us feel lighter, it might be wonderful for us to let them know, and share this experience with them. If you are like me, there have been are times, when I have felt positive things toward a person I care about, and somehow just forgot to tell them. I am making an effort at doing better at this. I suspect also that sharing in this way can make us feel vulnerable. It can also open up possibilities to deepen our connection. If we have difficulty making these changes we might want to consider either individual or couples counseling to help us improve our ability to deepen our loving relationship.