How do we teach ourselves, and our children to see either the positive or negative things in life? How to we teach ourselves to see either the negative or positive aspects of ourselves, and how do we train ourselves to notice the negative or positive things in others. In the last couple of posts I have addressed the issues of negativity and confirmation bias. These concepts somehow have shed some light for me into my own inner workings, as well as better understanding others motivations and behavior. It is as if we get out our magnifying glass and search for what is good in the world, what is good in our selves, and what is good in others. We can also use another magnifying glass to notice, magnify, and highlight the negativity in others, in ourselves, or in those around us. The "crazy thing", is that once we notice some negativity we can unconsciously set out to prove that our negative assumptions are correct. Our amazing brain can even discard any evidence which does not validate our impression or belief. For me this is a hugh learning. We underestimate the incredible power of our intellect, and in this case the power of our unconscious intellectual processing. Our unconscious mind which works both for us and against us. The statement that, I am of two minds may have more meaning than we think. Most people when they make this statement are expressing two different conscious aspects of themselves, or a conscious conflict within them. A part of me wants to do this, and another part wants to do something different. The reality is that we have a conscious mind that is processing information in one way, and an unconscious mind that is processing information completely differently than our conscious mind. Our conscious effort to notice the good in someone may be counteracted by some unconscious process that is trying to prove that they are not good or worthy, that we are not good or worthy, or that world may not be a good place and lacks resources to meet our needs and sustain us. Fortunately our conscious positive intention will ultimately win out if we consistently make the effort to notice what is positive and worthwhile in the world, in ourselves and in others. Our positive intentions will ultimately reprogram the system. Sometimes we give up too easily. Our efforts need to be sustained over time.
Is The Glass Half Empty or Half Full
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