Just as our genes are genetically transmitted so to our communication patterns. A simple way to put this might be that we learn from each generation that precedes us. Like stories that are handed down from generation to generation, so to are our styles of communication and personal interaction. It may well be that emotional injuries and hurts are transmitted from generation to generation as well. There may even be guilt and other things that are transmitted that we don't yet even understand or know about. We know for sure that prejudice can be transmitted from generation to generation. The way we communicate and relate to others will be greatly influenced by our parents and other adults in our families, if we do not have outside influences that act upon us to change our thinking and beliefs. Coaches, teachers, therapists, friends, and almost anyone we come in contact with have the potential to have an impact on us. It is our parents, however, that have a power impact on our thinking, beliefs, and behavior. How far do we need to go back to understand what was transmitted from generation, to generation, and what went wrong, and yet some things have gone right as well. I guess we can blame "Adam and Eve", for the bad stuff. This poor couple, they have been blamed for everything. I wonder if when they argued, who was blamed for their arguments. I mean couples do that. I really wonder which one was responsible enough to accept responsibility for their own actions. We often want to shift the blame away from ourselves. Some of their descendants, however, have developed better communication patterns than others. I wonder how that happened? All families are dysfunctional, it is just a matter of degree. How could they not be dysfunctional since no one is perfect. When well intended people are "joined" together, who happen to be imperfect, as we all are, (some people have the illusion that they are not, but that is only an illusion) the family structure can be nothing but imperfect. My father would consistently tell me that he was a better father than his father. He told me some horrific stories about his childhood. I do believe my father was a better father than his father, and I must tell you, "he was no picnic". I think I have been a better father to my son than my dad was to me, and I suspect that my son feels the same way. (I am proud of my son for the father that he is to his children. I know that he has not made many of the mistakes that I have made) Hopefully we can teach our children things that can improve their lives, as we make an effort to be better parents, and learn from our mistakes..
Multi Generational Transmission
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