I was listening to Russel Brand. If you are not familiar with him, he is an English comedian, writer, and actor. I find him fascinating, in part because of his accent and demeanor, in addition to his candor and openness regarding his life. He talks about his experiences with a variety of addictions, his involvment in therapy, and his recovery. He encourages people to be involved in therapy when they are facing difficult times. I think an accurate account of his talk is that if we don't become involved in some therapeutic endeavor, we may live our lives on auto pilot, never developing our full potential, and we may often behave in ways that undermines the quality of our lives. In addition we don't get the opportunity to live life more fully and more consciously. In this same video he was talking about some healthy coping strategies that he has learned which he frequently uses at this time in his life. The first is "Appreciation Practice". He says that even when he is feeling down he encourages himself to practice appreciation. This is a challenge for me personally, when I am in not in the best place emotionally, when I am down or feeling like life is treating me unfairly. At these times, something within me resists noticing the gifts in my life. This is particularly true when I have had major losses in my life, of people that I have cared deeply about. Even then I need to encourage myself to continue this valuable practice. These difficult times are when I a slapped by reality. (Dr. Russ Patrack talks about "Reality Gaps", and "Reality Slaps", By Reality Gaps he means the smaller disappointments in life where what we want is not the reality that we have. Reality Slaps are those situations which are more traumatic, such as serious diagnosis of yourself or a family member, or the loss of a loved one.) I can more easily practice appreciation when things are going relatively well, or when life hands out smaller disappointments. I suspect that the Pandemic might be seen as a "Reality Slap", for many people. And some of us unfortunately are handed other reality slaps on top of that one. The second thing he talked about was "Service", This is more than just our desire to be helpful, but our helpful actions. Our actual altruistic behavior. When I think of service I frequently think of Jesus humbling himself, washing the apostles feet. There are likely several teachings in his actions, one of which was to show humility, and another demonstrates altruism, and caring for others. The third thing Russel talked about was a sense of community. This is difficult in a Pandemic, however, we all need to put effort into connecting and caring for others the best we can, and realize the healing power in both connecting with, and caring for others. .
Recovery and Coping
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