This relationship seems pretty obvious so why even bother to write about the topic. Is the commercial airplane pilot drunk?
If I believe the pilot is intoxicated of course I will not trust him and will feel anxious. But what if don't trust the pilot for some reason, without having any actual data about him. Of course this is just a silly example. How often do we distrust someone without having any real data. We might see their face and believe that they are untrustworthy, at other times we may see an untrustworthy person's face and believe they are trust worthy. We are all different with regards to the trust we have in others, and the world around us, and we are all different with regards to the degree of trust we have in ourselves. Erick Erickson created a theory of psychosocial development in which he identified the first stage in his theory as, " trust vs basic mistrust". Erickson believed that if a child's basic needs were met by his or her mother the child would feel secure, (and develop what psychologists refer to as a secure attachment) if not the child may become anxious and may even develop suspicion. As we grow and interact with our world, our sense of trust in others, ourselves, and the world around us plays an important role in our emotions, our behavior, and our perceptions regarding the world's ability to meet our needs. It becomes a bit complicated, however, how we see our world, will influence our behavior. How we interact with the world may determine how the world responds to us. Our own behavior can ultimately prove to us that our perceptions were accurate or inaccurate. If we develop beliefs that the world is basically not trustworthy, we may need to be consistently "hypervigilant" and "on guard". When this happens our "fight or flight response can be consistently engaged". To make matters worse we can lose faith in our own ability to trust and relate to our own emotions. If we already have some trust issues add in the pandemic and maybe the PTSD that some of us still carry from "Nine Eleven", which has been neatly tucked away. How can we begin to take a another path and develop a different perspective or representation of others and our world? When we develop a belief that the world is rich in resources to meet our needs we feel safer and less anxious. How can we begin to develop more trust in ourselves and our ability to relate to and manage our own emotions? How can we more accurately assess what is actually, "out there", The truth is that we are loving beings, and that "stuff" just gets in our way of experiencing the compassion and love that we were born to experience. I will be writing more on this topic. You can go to my timeline if this is something you are interested in learning more about. (namaste) Lets all be nicer to ourselves!