Life presents us with so many opportunities to turn towards others and to connect intimately. The data seems to support that most Americans often feel lonely and isolated. This research is related to data gathered prior to the Pandemic, however on the surface it appears that we are satisfied with superficial connections. Much of our interaction is superficial and we often discourage deeper emotional expression. I completely understand this, for me sometimes my job is heavy and intense, when I am not working I just want to play and act stupid. It is also difficult to be vulnerable, we don't know how others will react to us. We have Facebook friends and connections on other social media platforms, although we may not truly connect on some level emotionally, in my view we are often not committed to these relationships, and they will often come and go with some slight degree of disappointment. This is unlike having real human beings in our lives, where we have authentic commitment to those individuals. This is only my opinion from my limited experience with social media. In these difficult and trying times it is wonderful that we have some sense of connection on the internet, but these connections may not take place of committed relationships. Whether we are on social media or together with others, we often have the opportunity to turn towards the emotional need of the other, or to turn away from that need. Sometimes the other is only asking for some simple sense of connection, they may be looking for a comment from us acknowledging their interest, at other times the need is for a deeper emotional connection. They may need understanding, validation, or compassion. An example might be when a couple is at the theatre watching a light hearted movie, and the woman suddenly becomes tearful when some scene stimulates sadness in her. Who knows what happened or what was stimulated. She may not even know and could be curious herself. Her husband responds with a comment that her sadness is ridiculous considering that they were watching this light hearted movie, he even laughs and makes fun of her. He just missed an important opportunity to connect more deeply with his wife. What could have been an opportunity for her to release some emotional pain that she may not even understand, now becomes an event in which she feels more sadness, although his response may have seemed playful to him, it is likely that another layer of hurt and pain developed which she is likely to keep to herself. She may even feel embarrassment and shame regarding the incident. Later when he desires her affection and loving energy, or even physical love, it may not be there the way it could have been. He was not skillful in the situation. He certainly may not have intended to be hurtful, but was unaware of his wife's need and lost a valuable opportunity. This may be because of his own lack of awareness regarding his on emotions. Another possibility might have been for him to touch her reassuringly, and after the movie ask her something like, "I wonder what it was in the movie that brought up that sadness for you", in this situation he turned, "towards", her. His actions would likely help his wife become more open, more relaxed, and more capable of feeling love towards him, and maybe even herself. When ever a person is experiencing distress we have the opportunity to turn towards them, to comfort them, or to heal them. We can also can "turn away", we can choose to judge them, be disapproving of their emotions, or be contemptuous and look down upon them. We can choose to turn away from them, and erect an emotional barrier, which will serve to injure the relationship, and make both individuals less fulfilled, less nourished, and likely more stressed and anxious.